I'm a 19 year old boy and i'm dating a 25 year old girl
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This sort of thing, as with almost any relationship, is almost entirely dependent on the people involved. When you say it only matters if you are happy, what you are saying is , you want to be happy! He needs to know that you will give him the time he needs to commit.
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I'm a 19 year old boy and i'm dating a 25 year old girl - Details of this case were not immediately available.
But what if everything about the other person you liked, you liked their personality, you found them attractive, etc... Does it say about me that I wasn't able to attract a younger woman so there is something wrong with me? Maturity might be an issue, but you'll get that in any relationship, irrespective of the age difference. There is nothing wrong with you. This relationship seems quite normal, to my eyes. Granted, I've dated people where there was a MUCH bigger age difference than this, so maybe my perspective is slightly different to other people's. But it's not like you're 16 and she's 21. If a 26 year old friend were dating a 21 year old, I'd likely question the friend's maturity level. The genders are, to me, irrelevant. If you're uncomfortable with the age difference, don't date this person. But if you like her, stop judging her and yourself for your dating choices. Dating someone younger than you is not a badge of your sexual attractiveness, and dating someone older than you should not be viewed as a sacrifice. If you're ashamed of her or of yourself because of her age, do her the favor of breaking things off so that she can find someone who is proud to be with her. You have been trained, by our culture, to see relationships between an older man an a younger woman as normal, and the opposite as abnormal. This is't how it actually works, though; plenty of women are with younger men, especially a gap of only five years. Does it say about me that I wasn't able to attract a younger woman so there is something wrong with me? This shows the origin of this question. This is, to be blunt, complete sexist bullshit. Having a girlfriend who is a few years older than you says nothing about you, but worrying about it does. It says you are insecure. She was 29 when they started dating, I suppose. They got married two weeks ago. This sort of thing, as with almost any relationship, is almost entirely dependent on the people involved. If you think this way already, what you are going to think when it's time for your friends to meet your girlfriend? Are you going to be embarrassed about her being 5 years closer to wearing Depends diapers or something? Also, I'd just like to request that you and society as a whole work super-hard to unpack yourselves of this notion. If you could see your way clear. I'm not a mom or even vaguely matronly. You and I most likely have virtually identical life experiences and overall approaches to the world. We like the same bands, watch the same TV shows and movies, and are nostalgic about the same Saturday morning cartoons. You, on the other hand, sound immature and judgmental about both gender relations and age, and so it probably won't work out, unless your prospective girlfriend is willing to be considered milfy or a cougar, but she probably won't. I would never ever date a woman and not be proud of her, and hide her from my friends, it wouldnt be fair. I haven't even asked her out yet but it seems like she wants me to. That as a statistic men chase younger women, and dating an older woman is looked upon as failing to be able to compete with other men. Cut this shit out. Anyway, in my early-mid 30s I dated a guy very seriously for several years who was about four years younger. The reasons it didn't work out had nothing to do with our age gap. Where two twentysomethings can wait and see where things go, maybe get married, maybe think about kids when it feels right - a couple in their 30's do have to face the reality that female fertility starts declining after 35. So if you don't think you want kids in the next 10 years, and she does -- the relationship can't work in the long run. It sounds from your question and followups that you're focusing on a lot of superficial externals about how it might affect you rather than the heart of the matter - what is she looking for in you? If she doesn't know, I suggest you tell her. She might chose to make this a non-issue for you. Re your question: A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? I think it's just fine if a 26 year old man is dating a 31 year old woman. But, if we're talking about a 26 year old guy, I'm not so sure. Just noticed that 15 comments have been posted since I started writing. I'm betting that I'm not the only one who is giving you grief about this question. That as a statistic men chase younger women, and dating an older woman is looked upon as failing to be able to compete with other men. You, sincere internet stranger who is making a valiant effort to figure this out, are not a statistic. You may plug into some venn diagrams every once in a while, but the value judgements you make for your own time in life need not be unduly influenced by lying numbers or hype and spin or anything other than your own notion of where the ship you and only you are steering is headed. Does that make it bad or a bad idea? I don't think so, but that's your decision to make. What people might think of you as a couple is just one of many factors that go into deciding whether to pursue a specific relationship. It's not wrong to consider it, either, but talking about it in this particular way reinforces a lot of gross sexist norms so I suggest not bringing it up like this around other people or around this woman. Why do you care what other people think about your prospective relationship, or what they might think about you on the basis of who you date? They haven't even gone on a date. I don't think kids need to be a factor in the dating process quite yet. It's never been any kind of issue. On the other hand, at the tender age of 26 I think of myself as a grown man and I wouldn't lower myself to taking advice from a bunch of bros in the comment section of a dating website so maybe our experiences are very different. Does it say about me that I wasn't able to attract a younger woman so there is something wrong with me? For what it's worth - not much, by the way - some women my own age have told me that the fact that I was dating a 40 year old raised their opinion if me. But you should not be using the identity of the person you date as a status symbol because it's repulsive. My sister-in-law and my ex-sister-in-law are both five or six years older than my brother, and I don't think either relationship has had, or had, any issues relating to their age difference. In that sense dating an older woman reflects well on you. Older women, because of their confidence and experience, also make better lovers. I would really encourage you to disabuse yourself of the subconscious misogyny you've indicated in your post and follow-ups so that you can be worthy of her interest. Notwithstanding, what are YOU comfortable with? And the line about not able to attract a younger woman.. You fall in love with whom you fall in love with. We had a lot of fun in the time we were together. Our work was similar, we liked the same movies, the same books, we had the same political views, our musical tastes overlapped. Eventually he was transferred to another city and that was that, but we had a terrific time. No one, including the two of us, gave any thought to the age difference, because it was never evident. My question is regardless of your concerns, how is anyone even going to know you are dating a 31 year old unless you tell them? Unless said women looks substantially older than 31 or you look substantially younger than 26, your age difference is unlikely to be identifiable by the general public that's making the rather generous assumption that anyone else is going to care. FWIW, I am a woman and I have been the oldest by a span of 4 to 8. I didn't marry any of them or anyone else for that matter but they -- well all but one -- were great relationships, the shortest of which lasted almost 2 years and the longest almost 8 years. I don't recall my age, or our age difference, being a factor. I primarily dated men younger than myself because those were the men that I happened to meet. I went to grad school at 31 and most of my classmates were 6-8 years younger than I was. When I got out and got my first internship, same deal. I had more in common with them then men my own age who were already well-established in their careers, etc. Most of the time we found out each others ages after we started dating and it just wasn't an issue for either of us. There are lots of advantages to dating a grownup. I wouldn't trade her for a 22-year-old for anything, especially when I remember what I was like at 22. Also, did you read that OkCupid article, or just the comments? Because the article, if I'm thinking of the same one you are, was about how awesome women in their 30s are, and how dumb it is that guys don't tend to date older women. And they had data to back up 30-something women being awesome! If she's OK with you, you should be too. When I was in my early 30's, I had a short relationship with a woman in her early 20's. We weren't a good match and one of the things that stuck out to me was the difference in maturity. If you're thoughtful and mature and your are compatible, great, have a good time. I'm not a MILF or a Cougar and spent most of the early years of the relationship worrying about the age difference, it has never bothered him. You like who you like, ask her out and if she says yes I hope you both have fun. If it becomes serious you won't care about the age difference, and if it's only a bit of fun for both of you, you might learn something about yourself and women. Also face early thirties deosn't look that much different to late 20's its not like she's got grey hair and a walking stick, no one is going to look twice. Are you sure that they've failed at competing? Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women? Would it really make you feel better about yourself? Does it say about me that I wasn't able to attract a younger woman so there is something wrong with me? This is not enough data to say anything about you. In fact, the only thing this tells me is that you are into this particular 31 year old woman. It could, maybe, suggest that you're more into 31 year olds than other women. If you really need to be older than your lady, just wait until you're 32 and start hitting on the 31 year olds. Ta da, problem solved. Or you could realize you're being ridiculous and ask this one out now. A week later he turned 21 and 2 weeks after that I was 28. It didn't last, but he's still one of my favorite people in the world. We still root for each other. And it wasn't because of our ages that it didn't work out. But even if it was, that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been worth it. As a 23-24 year old, I dated a 30-31 year old. As a 24-25 year old, I dated a 41-42 year old. As a 25-26 year old, I dated a 31-32 year old. In all cases, it was two people being attracted to each other, not two numbers. Just be open and honest, listen to both your heart and your mind, and it is hard for things to go too wrong. I never cared a bit about the age difference. She, on the other hand, never seemed to get over the age gap. Thus, we only lasted a couple of months. But, had she been OK with the gap as I was , the relationship may have lasted a good bit longer. TLDR - Age difference is only a problem if you think it is. And honestly, it's normal to freak out about this stuff even if you are super-enlightened. I consider myself super-feminist, but still had this idea in my head that women don't date younger men, because they're less mature, and make worse relationships. My fiance reminded me that we share the same cultural touch points. Y craze that lasted all of about five minutes? WE ARE THE SAME AGE. That said, while it's normal to worry about it briefly, if you stick with these concerns, it might mean that there are some lingering insecurities. In other words, either a five year age difference between consenting adults is creepy or it isn't. The older party being a woman doesn't somehow make it wrong, that's a sexist double standard and it's bullshit. Think of it this way: do you really think there's something wrong with this women that you find attractive and whose personality you like if she happens likes you back? Does that sound like any kind of healthy or happy way to approach a relationship? Women are people, just like you. They fell in love and were partners; they had two sons and raised them. They were together for 21 years. I guess you'd have to ask Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins. We lasted 10 great years together. When I was 42, my boyfriend was 31. We made a great couple, and were together for years as well. In both relationships, I very much felt we were equals. Two people, well met, who happened to have an age gap. To answer your question: Magic 8 Ball says: GO FOR IT posted by at on June 3, 2012 I'm going to be 31 this fall and the only thing that makes me a MILF is that kid that I have. Seriously, not only is the five year age difference not an issue, but 31 is not old by any stretch of the imagination - except that which has decided that 30 year old women are past their expiration date and everyone past that point needs pity and wrinkle cream. This is the segment of our society that sells magazines telling women to look younger and telling men that younger women are more valuable. Don't listen to it. It's not that it's not okay to date them, I'm just not into them. And maybe if I got to know them I would change my mind, but just from looking at them, I can appreciate a good looking 24-25 year old, but I am just not attracted to them. So ask her out first, see how it goes, and don't overthink the age thing. Hopefully she doesn't think the same way I do. Also, I would like to point out that this was in the COMMENTS section. Which leads me to believe that some single guy wrote this on a dating site because he can't meet someone. Is that really who you want to believe? I'm a 31 year old female. If some 26-year old dude referred to me as a cougar, I'd probably smack him right upside the head. Ask her out if you are ok with dating an older woman. Older women are awesome because we're well established, are independent, have careers, cool interests and do fun stuff. Some of us even have accepted ourselves and our bodies for what they are and are over the phase of trying to be something we're not. We're awesome because we're confident, fun and know ourselves pretty well and are comfortable in our own skin. Age doesn't really enter into it at all. One of these relationships hasn't worked out because 26-year-old Guy A is fairly immature and insecure, but that doesn't have much to do with his age--I know 35-year-old men who are equally immature and insecure, and 26-year-old Guy B is perfectly mature and secure. Most people assume we are roughly the same age because we are! Do not let people like this drag you down to their level.
Sid Singh - 26 Dating a 19 Year Old
He has much more to experience but i think it's worth it for now. The NGWJHMTRGYAHRWPWSLAHWTPE is enjoying his life. Success stories would be much appreciated. I think our culture doesn't aid in successful monogamy. If you're uncomfortable with the age difference, don't date this person. Deep down, I was searching for a soulmate. We weren't a good match and one of the things that prime out to me was the difference in maturity. Technically, you're both adults. My one minute unweighted speed is around five hundred full contact strikes.
